Secret To Make Your Ex Return Your Call

If you're still sitting by the phone waiting for your ex to call, first of all, you are not alone. It's one of the biggest questions that people like you who are trying to repair their relationships have, so keep reading! You may not believe it, but there is a secret to make your ex return your calls - words you can use that will make your ex feel almost compelled to call you back.

But be warned, this technique is great, but using it on its own - without a complete get your ex back plan - it may do more harm than good. For the complete set of make-up secrets, click here.

Before we get into the secret to make your ex return your calls, let's go over what almost never works. There are two main categories. One is pleading. Here's an example: "Ashley, please, please call me back. This is the third time I have called, and I have to talk to you." The other is the emergency, as in: "Jake, this is an emergency. I'm serious. Please call me back the second you get this."

Now that you see these in black and white, so to speak, you probably can see for yourself why these are bad tactics to use when you want to make your ex return your calls.

What you want to do, instead, is play on two of the most powerful forces in the human mind: curiosity and self-interest. The magic happens when you combine the two.

Here's an example of what you can say that works nearly every time when you want to make your ex return your calls.

Say something like this using a friendly tone of voice: "Hi, Jake, it's Monica. I just wanted to let you know I really appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."

Can you see how this message uses both curiosity and self-interest? Jake will not be able to resist, wondering "What did I do? What does she appreciate?" He'll be curious and he'll also feel good because, unlike the pleading/emergency type messages, this one is positive.

Of course, before you try this, you need to do the "Set Up" - that is, figuring out what your ex did that you appreciate. It doesn't have to be anything big, it just has to be believable.

But more importantly, if you apply this technique without an underlying strategy, and they do call you back, it's possible you can do more harm than good if you do not handle it correctly. That's because the things you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call in the first place.

While this is a great secret to make your ex return your calls (or text or IM, for that matter), it's more important to have a complete making-up plan.